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Facebook Single Status
June 23, 2008, 11:25
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I’m contemplating changing my relationship status on Facebook, until I realized that my relationship status is no one’s business but my own. The people that know, know. Know what I mean?

I’m a fan of the “leave it blank” school of thought. If you leave it blank, then you never have to change it from “single” to “in a relationship” because the status is open for interpretation. Of course, if you get engaged/married then you should tether your page to your partner’s page. Leave it blank in all other cases.

Case in point: I had it listed as single for the longest time and then I started dating this guy. Around that time (completely unrelated to the relationship, which was in the early stage) I realized that leaving the relationship status blank was an option. This intrigued me. I changed my status to blank. All of a sudden, the world knew that I was “no longer listed as single.”

EMBARRASSING. My facebook friends, especially the guys, thought that I had jumped the gun in proclaiming my love for this guy 2 weeks into the relationship. One friend specifically called me out, saying, “You’ve gone on three dates, right? Don’t you think you’ll scare him off?” Fair point. Luckily, said boy did not have a facebook account at the time so he was none the wiser.

Anyway, even though my relationship status has changed I’m going to leave the shiznat blank on my facebook account. I like avoiding trouble.

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Failure
June 7, 2008, 11:25
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Failure according to J.K. Rowling at the 2008 Harvard Commencement.

My favorite quote:

And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

I have a lot to say about failure.  I also have a lot to say about the veil of ignorance…but not today. I am tired.



Corporate Karma
May 12, 2008, 11:25
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Here is a little free advice—-when someone you know asks you for business advice, help them out. Always help them out. The person asking may seem like a novice, a baby in the industry who doesn’t know pencils from pens…but, that person will grow professionally and they will (hopefully) always remember that you helped them out when they were starting off their career.

Help the kid that randomly contacted you after finding your name your college contact database.

Help the girl, that friend of a friend, that is starting her career in the same obscure field you already maneuvered a decade ago.

Help your friend’s kids who are thinking about college and want to know more about UF or NYU or UT or whatever school it is that you graduated from.

Memories are long. Networks are small and weirdly inter-connected. TRUST ME that at some point it will come out that you did or did not help xyz out when he/she facebooked you with a job-related question or two. I speak from experience.

I put my sister in touch with a friend of a friend that has been in the marketing industry for awhile. She asked him a pretty simple question (any advice on how to source new clients?). She definitely didn’t ask him for a job or anything like that, she just wanted advice on how to fully leverage the job she already has. Well guess what, he never wrote back.

That’s fine. See, he is in the process of building a start-up that happens to be smack in the middle of a field in which my best friend plays a key role.  My best friend heard the story and no matter what happens going forward, he will know that this start-up is managed by the douche bag that chose to not help my sister out. Maybe that first impression will make a difference one day, maybe it wont…but what I do know is that the first impression has been set.

HELP PEOPLE OUT. ALWAYS. It pays off, even if the payoff is nothing but the simple thanks of a grateful person.



The Man in the Arena
May 9, 2008, 11:25
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My favorite quote.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

-Theodore Roosevelt, 1910.



SNAP—Hillary Clinton Pulls the Race Card

She must be getting desperate or else she would have avoided pulling the race card during her interview with USA Today.

Say whaaaat!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let us not forget that Obama has WON more delegates than Clinton. He has more popular support than Clinton.  Mathematically speaking, there is absolutely no way that he could have achieved either of these two feats unless he had wide spread support because there are not enough minorities in this country to out vote the majority. Duh.

Talk about flawed logic Ms. Hillary Clinton. Didn’t you go to Yale Law School? The best law school in the United States? Law = Logic = WTF is going on with Clinton.

I’m feeling insulted right now. Race card…come on. As the first female candidate you have got to be better than that or else someone might pull the gender card which is equally bogus.



11,500 Layoffs
May 6, 2008, 11:25
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Wow. Dealbreaker says that 11,500 people will get laid off in the next few weeks. That is a lot of competition.



Farewell New York, Farewell
May 1, 2008, 11:25
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I’m officially leaving the Northeast and moving to a warmer city.

I still don’t know how I feel about NY. I moved here exactly one year ago 5/5/07 with all the hopes of a recent college graduate—-thing is, I had been working for a few years already so I should have known better. The job with the fat promise of a bonus dried up ten months into my stay—about seven months after I realized that I wasn’t cut out for the crazy hours I was expected to work. The relationship that I “technically” didn’t move here for fizzled somewhat.

Then again, I finally defined my professional limits. I learned that I care too much about my life to strap myself to a desk for 12+ hours a day, every day, six days a week. That’s a valuable lesson and its best to learn it early on in life. Maybe my relationship isn’t going to make it, but I definitely realized that I am one kick ass girlfriend and that I can have a functional relationship (even if it didn’t lead to marriage). I lived in NY, I know the streets in Soho, I went to the museums (once, maybe), I “discovered” some amazing restaurants, had some crazy nights….

I wouldn’t swap any of my experiences this last year, even though I went through some intense ups and downs. Not sure if I’d come back and live here again either. Wow. These past 365 days flew by.