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Fish Bowl Theory
January 22, 2011, 11:25
Filed under: Gender Fights, MBA

Imagine a fish bowl filled with water. Water rushes from one side to another depending on how you tilt the bowl. You can tilt whichever way you want, but the volume of water always remains the same.  My life is like this fish bowl with a constant ratio of good and bad….at least most of the time.

Five: There are five main forces in your life and their status determines your level of happiness

Health

Love

Family

Friends

Work

Three:  You can count on this little rule of thumb—on average, 3/5 of your sources of happiness will be in good shape while 2/5 will need improvement.  Bad years happen when the ratio flips and most of your sources are messed up and driving you mad.

Now:

  • Love: For the first time in my life, I can say that there is potential for real love. I am dating someone who is such a good fit for me that I wonder if maybe there is such a thing as “meant to be” or “soul mates” or whatever other little girl idea I threw out years ago. I literally could not be happier or more confident in my choice to be with him.
  • Family: Knock on wood, but everyone in my family is healthy right now. Happy right now. I don’t want to jinx it so I’ll stop typing.
  • Friends: Someone asked me who my best friend was and I had a hard time answering the question because I honestly feel like I have 15 best friends.  I’ve been collecting them since I was 15.  I have my bff’s from high-school, college, and now business school.  We keep in touch. We support each other. We love each other. I am blessed.
  • Work: Not so good.  Things boiled over in my new job and I got really negative feedback.  It seems like the manner by which I deliver my thoughts conveys the opposite of my otherwise good intentions. I am apparently viewed as scary and disruptive at work.  This sucks because I literally could not have more opposite intentions. This sucks because I have been working my ass off and producing high-caliber output.
  • Health: I’m healthy in the grander scheme of things, thank God. However, work sucks right now and I have no time to work out. This is a problem. I’m approaching 30 and want to be careful about setting a healthy, thin baseline for my body when I cross over into the big 3-0. I can’t do that if I work long hours, eat like shit, and work out only on occasions.

The good news is that I can take steps to modify my behavior at work and reverse any mis-perceptions people have of me.

This was a random update post. I apologize.  More to come later.