I’m contemplating changing my relationship status on Facebook, until I realized that my relationship status is no one’s business but my own. The people that know, know. Know what I mean?
I’m a fan of the “leave it blank” school of thought. If you leave it blank, then you never have to change it from “single” to “in a relationship” because the status is open for interpretation. Of course, if you get engaged/married then you should tether your page to your partner’s page. Leave it blank in all other cases.
Case in point: I had it listed as single for the longest time and then I started dating this guy. Around that time (completely unrelated to the relationship, which was in the early stage) I realized that leaving the relationship status blank was an option. This intrigued me. I changed my status to blank. All of a sudden, the world knew that I was “no longer listed as single.”
EMBARRASSING. My facebook friends, especially the guys, thought that I had jumped the gun in proclaiming my love for this guy 2 weeks into the relationship. One friend specifically called me out, saying, “You’ve gone on three dates, right? Don’t you think you’ll scare him off?” Fair point. Luckily, said boy did not have a facebook account at the time so he was none the wiser.
Anyway, even though my relationship status has changed I’m going to leave the shiznat blank on my facebook account. I like avoiding trouble.
Failure according to J.K. Rowling at the 2008 Harvard Commencement.
My favorite quote:
And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.
I have a lot to say about failure. I also have a lot to say about the veil of ignorance…but not today. I am tired.
Here is a little free advice—-when someone you know asks you for business advice, help them out. Always help them out. The person asking may seem like a novice, a baby in the industry who doesn’t know pencils from pens…but, that person will grow professionally and they will (hopefully) always remember that you helped them out when they were starting off their career.
Help the kid that randomly contacted you after finding your name your college contact database.
Help the girl, that friend of a friend, that is starting her career in the same obscure field you already maneuvered a decade ago.
Help your friend’s kids who are thinking about college and want to know more about UF or NYU or UT or whatever school it is that you graduated from.
Memories are long. Networks are small and weirdly inter-connected. TRUST ME that at some point it will come out that you did or did not help xyz out when he/she facebooked you with a job-related question or two. I speak from experience.
I put my sister in touch with a friend of a friend that has been in the marketing industry for awhile. She asked him a pretty simple question (any advice on how to source new clients?). She definitely didn’t ask him for a job or anything like that, she just wanted advice on how to fully leverage the job she already has. Well guess what, he never wrote back.
That’s fine. See, he is in the process of building a start-up that happens to be smack in the middle of a field in which my best friend plays a key role. My best friend heard the story and no matter what happens going forward, he will know that this start-up is managed by the douche bag that chose to not help my sister out. Maybe that first impression will make a difference one day, maybe it wont…but what I do know is that the first impression has been set.
HELP PEOPLE OUT. ALWAYS. It pays off, even if the payoff is nothing but the simple thanks of a grateful person.
My favorite quote.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
-Theodore Roosevelt, 1910.
Filed under: Gender Fights, Politics, Un-Wordy | Tags: Clinton. Obama. Race Card. Politics. 2008 Election.
She must be getting desperate or else she would have avoided pulling the race card during her interview with USA Today.
Say whaaaat!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let us not forget that Obama has WON more delegates than Clinton. He has more popular support than Clinton. Mathematically speaking, there is absolutely no way that he could have achieved either of these two feats unless he had wide spread support because there are not enough minorities in this country to out vote the majority. Duh.
Talk about flawed logic Ms. Hillary Clinton. Didn’t you go to Yale Law School? The best law school in the United States? Law = Logic = WTF is going on with Clinton.
I’m feeling insulted right now. Race card…come on. As the first female candidate you have got to be better than that or else someone might pull the gender card which is equally bogus.
Wow. Dealbreaker says that 11,500 people will get laid off in the next few weeks. That is a lot of competition.
I’m officially leaving the Northeast and moving to a warmer city.
I still don’t know how I feel about NY. I moved here exactly one year ago 5/5/07 with all the hopes of a recent college graduate—-thing is, I had been working for a few years already so I should have known better. The job with the fat promise of a bonus dried up ten months into my stay—about seven months after I realized that I wasn’t cut out for the crazy hours I was expected to work. The relationship that I “technically” didn’t move here for fizzled somewhat.
Then again, I finally defined my professional limits. I learned that I care too much about my life to strap myself to a desk for 12+ hours a day, every day, six days a week. That’s a valuable lesson and its best to learn it early on in life. Maybe my relationship isn’t going to make it, but I definitely realized that I am one kick ass girlfriend and that I can have a functional relationship (even if it didn’t lead to marriage). I lived in NY, I know the streets in Soho, I went to the museums (once, maybe), I “discovered” some amazing restaurants, had some crazy nights….
I wouldn’t swap any of my experiences this last year, even though I went through some intense ups and downs. Not sure if I’d come back and live here again either. Wow. These past 365 days flew by.
WARNING: Any e-mail from this domain is a scam james_baliy600@yahoo.com. Read the ridiculous offer below
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How was your day? I will like to informed you that i contacted my bank to confirm if your payment has been mailed out , I was made to understand that instead of the actual amount of the item, the bank made out check for $2,000 The payment was already posted before I was informed about this but is a little problem which we can handle with care.
I wouldn’t want this to delay the sale, as I have rectify this with my Bank and all you do once you have the payment is to take it to your Bank and have it cashed and you will then deduct the money for your goods plus a $50 (the cost of running around).
The excess fund on the payment will then be wired to my mover via western union that same day so that she can come for pick up as I already plan on using the excess on the payment to offset the cost of the previous shipments she has undertaken on my behalf. Do let me know if I can trust you to have the excess fund sent to my mover. Thank you.
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You know it’s a scam because
1) this dude is sending $2000 for shitty IKEA furniture that I ended up giving away for free to a neighbor
2) he is having these items shipped to me. If you have the money to get things shipped, then WTF would you buy used IKEA furniture
3) According to Craigslist this is a classic example of fraud. The buyer sends you a check of excess amount, you check it, wire the remainder to the shipping company or whatever, and then the bank comes after YOU for payment when it turns out that the first check was a fake….
SO, Mr. James Bailiy—FUCK YOU. Lets hope people google you and this post comes up. Ass hole.
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Filed under: Links that rock, Un-Wordy, Unemployment | Tags: Banking. Laid off. Credit Crisis. Unemployment.
Word to your mama.
This guy says some pretty good stuff—and, having just found out about another round of layoffs tomorrow April 22nd at a bulge bracket bank, it’s a timely article.
Good luck guys—everything works out.
What is up with CNN this week? They post more autism related articles than election, sports and foreign affair articles combined. Why the sudden interest in the disorder?
I do not have children and do not know anyone directly affected by autism—but—even I have noticed a scary rise in the number of autism cases reported.
Many parents of autistic children say that xyz vaccines triggered the disorder, but the WHO and CDC have found no direct links between autism and vaccination. Here is some food for thought:
- Association is not causation (diagnosing autism after a vaccine doesn’t mean the vaccine caused autism)
- Direct linkage does not exclude indirect linkage (the vaccine may not be the direct cause of autism, but it may be one of many factors that trigger autism)
- The CDC and WHO exist to eradicate and manage disease. From their vantage point, it is probably preferable to eradicate diseases (spare millions of lives) at the cost of increasing the rate of autism (thousands of lives).
- Many people aren’t aware that in the 1980s our children received only 10 vaccines by age 5, whereas today they are given 36 immunizations, most of them by age 2. (Jenny McCarthy said this in her cnn article). Research shows that this new trend in immunization parallels the rise of autism (roughly triple the number of cases during this same time period).
I don’t know what the true cause of autism is, but I do know that I didn’t have to get so many vaccines when I was a kid. I got the chickenpox, and it sucked, but I didn’t die. I don’t see why everyone needs to get vaccinated for everything now a days. What’s wrong with getting sick every once in awhile?
I am pretty sure that I am not going to make my kids get every recommended vaccine out there. I’ll get the necessary ones, get one at a time, and take it from there. I do not want to risk giving my kid autism!!
